When someone asks why it's okay for women to refuse sex but not okay for men to refuse sex, I have to facepalm.
ಠ_ಠ It is not okay to force a woman to have sex. It is also not okay to force a man to have sex. In general, it is not okay to force any person to have sex. Agreed? Good. I don't know why there's a disconnect here.
When a woman does not consent to sex with a man, our heteronormative society calls her a tease, prude, or bitch. If she is raped, society says she wasn't raped because she "asked for it" and secretly wanted it. If it believes she was raped, it says she should have fought back.
When a man does not consent to sex with a woman, our heteronormative society calls him a fag, pussy, or again bitch. If he is raped, society says he wasn't raped because "real men can't be raped"; he secretly wanted it. If it believes he was raped, it again says he should have fought back.
A woman is told she should accept her rape because she looks like she wants sex (read: she has a vagina and is near men). A man is told he should accept his rape because he looks like he wants sex (read: he has a penis and is near women). We might not focus on the same excuses for men and women, but we're all essentially told the same thing.
So tell me wherein lies the double standard when neither gender is supposed to refuse sex. And when sexually assaulted, people don't want to believe us because our clothes or our genitalia supposedly imply consent.
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