Adding on to the previous post...

When someone asks why it's okay for women to refuse sex but not okay for men to refuse sex, I have to facepalm.

ಠ_ಠ It is not okay to force a woman to have sex. It is also not okay to force a man to have sex. In general, it is not okay to force any person to have sex. Agreed? Good. I don't know why there's a disconnect here.

When a woman does not consent to sex with a man, our heteronormative society calls her a tease, prude, or bitch. If she is raped, society says she wasn't raped because she "asked for it" and secretly wanted it. If it believes she was raped, it says she should have fought back.

When a man does not consent to sex with a woman, our heteronormative society calls him a fag, pussy, or again bitch. If he is raped, society says he wasn't raped because "real men can't be raped"; he secretly wanted it. If it believes he was raped, it again says he should have fought back.

A woman is told she should accept her rape because she looks like she wants sex (read: she has a vagina and is near men). A man is told he should accept his rape because he looks like he wants sex (read: he has a penis and is near women). We might not focus on the same excuses for men and women, but we're all essentially told the same thing.

So tell me wherein lies the double standard when neither gender is supposed to refuse sex. And when sexually assaulted, people don't want to believe us because our clothes or our genitalia supposedly imply consent.

Reading about the Amber Rose consent conversation with Tyrese and whomever. Reading the Fb comments. People aren't taking her words seriously because of who she is.

"Why would you be naked next to a man and refuse him sex? If he rapes you, you deserved it because you led him on and put yourself in that situation."

ಠ_ಠ No. No. No.

This is why marital/partner rape still isn't taken that seriously. This is why sex workers who are sexually assaulted or raped aren't taken seriously.

And don't get it twisted. Before you say it's a double standard based on gender, we never said it should be okay for men to be sexually assaulted. Our society laughs at men for not enjoying sexual advances made by women. That's NOT okay. It's the same damn issue as women being told they should be okay with sexual advances made toward them because of the way they dress.

Men are told to like sex because they are men who should have a "normal" sex drive.
Women are told to like sex because they are women who look/dress/act like they want to have sex.

That's the fucking issue. Society treats people like they aren't supposed to have any agency and just act accordingly to their gender. Fuck that.

Mini Rant: Women and "Men's Work"

Oh, fuck the bullshit that women have it easy and men have to take on jobs that women don't need to. Fuck that bullshit.

I've applied and interviewed for jobs that are typically for men, and I've been rejected because I am female. I was eventually hired for one; when I started, the company decided the job was not for a female and put me in the office despite the fact that that wasn't the job they hired me for.

When companies refuse to hire women for a "man's job," it's not women refusing to be in the field of work. It's not women having it easy. It's not sexism against men in the workforce. It's people perpetuating the idea that women are too weak and can't make it in a blue-collar world. Men apply for blue-collar jobs, and they get those jobs because they are men. Women apply for them, and interviewers literally laugh at us and think we're joking or delusional -.-

So before you say work-related deaths and injuries are higher for men and complain about feminism not caring about men, maybe consider why it's so skewed in the first place. There are more men in these jobs because people won't hire women. If there aren't that many women hired in these fields, why would other women try to work in these fields? What are the fucking chances women would have to get hired? Why bother?

Instead of complaining that women don't want to work these jobs, hire the ones that will!

I probably strongly dislike my job.

I was a mostly-A student, but I've never felt smart.

School taught me how to follow the rules and pass tests. I don't think I learned how to create my own. I don't know how to think on my feet.

The workforce wants innovative people. I just know how to think inside a pre-defined box. Even if I find the courage to step out of that box, where the fuck do I go?

I feel stuck. Again. I've trapped myself here. And I don't want to help myself get out because I'm too scared.

I don't know what I want to do. I just know I don't like my job. I used to think I'd be okay just working some job and getting by. But now I don't feel that way anymore. But I don't know how to figure out what I want to do.

To be honest, I just dislike my job because it has been changing too often and it now requires me to interact with people outside of my team. Even if it's just email interaction, I can't stand it. I don't know why. Before, I was emailing members of my team. Now, I'm emailing a few more people. It's such a minor change, but it feels like my mind and my body are having a major adverse reaction to it. And I can't make my mind not react the way it does.

What is wrong with me?

My mind is all over the place again. I'm unhappy with my job, but I feel like I'm only unhappy because it's slightly pushing me out of my comfort zone. It's just a small test. A normal person would learn the new work and get used to it.

A lot of people would be willing to take my place at this job. Maybe I should let them. I surely don't want this job. I just need it.

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I just want some peace of mind. I want to feel like I'm doing work that actually adds some good into this world. But I also want to make enough money to live comfortably.

But again, I'm too afraid to explore. I don't know where to start looking. I'm afraid to fail. But I also feel like staying where I am is slowly killing me.

I either need to suck it up and do something soon or just wait until I explode to do something haha. I should make the healthier decision, but you know I've always been the opposite of smart and courageous.